Monday, October 20, 2014
Six Things Happy Couples Do Differently
Maintaining a happy, loving relationship is hard work, especially when you are also juggling a busy career or parenting. It is easy for even well-matched couples to fall into negative cycles or neglect to prioritize your relationship. Misunderstanding each other, fighting over the small stuff, or taking your relationship for granted are common negative patterns that can erode relationship happiness. Learn what research and clinical wisdom tell us about happy couples. By adopting these patterns, you can prevent or end negative cycles and deepen your long-term connection with your partner.
Listen - Unhappy couples get into cycles of criticize/defend or nag/withdraw that end up derailing communication. Nobody feels heard and understood, so there is no buildup of goodwill. Happy couples are more present with each other and make an effort to listen and take each other’s needs seriously.
Create Intimacy - Unhappy couples are more likely to operate like roommates. The whole focus is on errands and running the household. The sense of being attractive and desirable to your partner gets lost. Or unhappy couples may communicate mostly by fighting and arguing. By contrast, happy couples prioritize emotional and physical intimacy, creating a positive self-reinforcing cycle.
Repair Fights - Unhappy couples don’t resolve conflict. Arguments turn into hostile interactions or the silent treatment that goes on for days. By contrast, happy couples reach out to each other after fighting to show they still care, even if the issue isn’t fully resolved.
Posted by Melanie Greenberg at 5:01 PM