When you first enter psychotherapy, you may not know what to expect. Perhaps you think that if you tell the therapist about your day to day stresses and worries, the therapist will tell you what to do Most people don't realize that psychologists aren't like doctors and don't "cure" you of unhappiness. It is not possible to take all the suffering out of life. Psychologists are like doctors in that they can provide a diagnosis for your mental health problems and "prescribe" interventions to address them. But they do not "cure" you in the way that a pill or surgery takes away your symptoms. You are the one who actually has to carry out the behavior changes. So, you aren't just a passive "patient" in psychotherapy, but an active participant.
While therapy cannot remove all of your distress, it can help you to make positive changes in your life that lead to greater life satisfaction and self-esteem:
Psychotherapy can help you in the following ways:(1) To view your problems in more hopeful or realistic ways,
(2) To understand the roots of distress in childhood learning, biology, relationships, etc.
(3) To experience and express difficult emotions, so as to increase self-awareness
(4) To speak up for yourself and set healthier boundaries with others
(5) To face and try to solve problems, rather than avoiding them
(6) To make deliberate choices about how to act, rather than reacting passively
(7) To focus energy on what you can control and come to terms with what you cannot
(8) To live in the present and be less controlled by expectations or fears from the past
(9) To manage fear and anxiety so they don't immobilize you
(10) To invest your time and energy in people and activities that add to your life satisfaction
(11) To cope more effectively with depression and anxiety
(12) To replace criticism and judgment of yourself with compassion
(13) To realistically assess your personal responsibility for events
(14) To tolerate risk and uncertainty that are inherent in life
(15) To learn healthier habits and improve motivation and self-control in a non-punitive way
(16) To be vulnerable and build closeness and trust with others
(17) To understand your internal & external triggers for negative reactions or behaviors
(18) To cope better with or learn to decrease difficult emotions or physical pain
(19) To replace shame and guilt with self-forgiveness and accountability
(20) To learn how to be on your own side - encouraging and guiding yourself
The end result of therapy is that you don't need the therapist anymore because you have the skills, knowledge, and confidence to deal with what life's challenges. Although you may still be distressed at times, you are less likely to feel, overwhelmed and helpless, or want to run away from your problems. You should better understand and accept both your strengths and weaknesses, respect and collaborate with others, and continue learning and growing so as to live a fuller and more meaningful life.
Indeed, good psychotherapy can be the best investment you will ever make!